I constantly struggle with Essentialism.
I bite off more than I can chew.
I take on more than I can handle.
Iâ€™ve gotten better at saying No to others. But how do I say No to myself?
After all, every website, book, and idea is a brilliant opportunity to indulge in a refreshing new experience.
Because of this, I have:
- Ever a growing list of books on the To-Read list, but donâ€™t read.
- The multitude of tabs opened in my browser that I donâ€™t get around to â€œbrowsingâ€.
- Bulging Projects and To-Do list.
And all of that makes me miserable.
How do I say NO to a potentially wonderful experience and feel good about missing out on it?
Below are books that explore this dilemma:
- Getting Things Done by David Allen.
- Essentialism by Greg McKewon.
- Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz.
- Bottleneck Rules by Clarke Ching
The bedrock of them all is GTD, which helps corral oneâ€™s commitments and provides various degrees of Focus & perspective. The other books listed above too have provided me with tools to get clearer on what is most Meaningful & Fulfilling.
Last fortnight I discovered yet another spanner for my Essentialism Tool Belt. And thatâ€™s the nifty Acronymâ€¦JOMO
Whatâ€™s JOMO? Itâ€™s the: Joy Of Missing Out!
The idea of JOMO was first coined byÂ Anil DashÂ in 2012!Â Itâ€™s been around for eight years and I never heard of it. Itâ€™s such a clever, delightful, relieving twist to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). I donâ€™t know about you, but just hearing JOMO in this Acronymy, poetic way, gives permission to say ‘No’ to the next exciting experience.
Yes, Iâ€™m going to miss out on the next:
- Life-changing book,
- Box-Office smashing blockbuster,
- Million-Dollar idea
and you know whatâ€¦.Iâ€™m okay about it. Heck, Iâ€™m JOYOUS On Missing Out on it.
FOMO and YOLO focus on a scarcity mindset.Â The worldâ€™s resources are limited and the winner is the one who takes all.
Whereas JOMO has this underlying current, the one who misses out is the winner. Just by being in a Clear empty space, he has the potential to see and experience something greater. Or perhaps by saying NO is experiencing it right now.
Have a go this week, try saying No to FOMO and instead experience JOMO.