Do you find yourself riding an emotional roller coaster, forever?
Are you constantly navigating from unimaginable highs, to crazy depths and then chugging back up again. At one moment experiencing the addictive joys of accomplishment, appreciation, or physical pleasures. Other times suffering the unbearable pains of ailments, harsh criticisms or the stings of injustice. Is that how we are destined to live our lives? Are we mere putty that yield and mould ourselves to the circumstances that provoke us. Or are we the potter that is eternally at peace, no matter what the circumstances, is always in control and shapes the clay of our emotional life into a perfect and beautiful vase? Can we become the warrior who consciously acts rather than the individual who simply reacts.
The answer is yes, we can be in more control of our feelings, emotions and reactions. The answer lies simply in knowing, the answer to the clicheíd question, Who are you?
Who are you, really?
Are we really just our physical selves? Are you and I just the amalgamation of limbs and organs, cells and bones? But we know that it just isnít so. We know that because:
– Inspite of having all material comforts, there is that yearning for more. If we were just our material selves, more comforts, would satisfy us, but it just doesnít.
– We understand and respect universal values truth, love, justice etc. Specialy if they are achieved when sacrificing more tangible values such us Personal Comforts, Time and Money. All these evidences point to the fact that we are much more soul & spirit (i.e. Consciousness) than we are flesh & bones (i.e. Matter).
But if we really are more Consciousness than Matter, are our concerns proportionaly placed? What are we thinking about most of the day? Are they more material, in nature, or more spiritual? If youíre thoughts are like mine, then all Iím mostly bogged down with are matters of either:
– Work (i.e. Iíve got so much to do and thereís just so little time, Oh woe is me, the market is not so good, oh yippee market is booming againÖetc.)
– Physical self (i.e. Iím hungry gosh when will lunch time come?, Yawn I feel so sleepy I could really use a cup of coffee know, Man, Iíve got a headache now where did I put that strip of Crocin)
– Other Material concerns (i.e. What do others think of me?, Do my colleagues feel Iím too lenient? Too strict? Gosh, what will everybody say if I do this/say that/weat this/wear that?)
How entrapped we are with our material concerns and little do we reflect on our spiritual ones.
So whatís the solution? What are my next actions? What can I do to get more of this Eternal Peace, thingy?
1. Keep asking Why? What? Where?
One of the best ways to gain perspective is constantly ask yourself. Ask yourself, where have you come from? Where are you going? Why you are doing what you are doing? Why are you working? Is it making you permanently happy? What would make you have everlasting bliss? Itís only with this process of asking and seeking that you can set yourself on the journey of being in a state of contsant peace.
2. Remind yourself.
Once you find yourself getting close to the answers, set reminder for yourselves daily, weekly, monthly etc. Take your favourite quotes and place them in your tickler file. Read, listen to material that places true perspective of the meaning of life. Man is of highly forgetful nature. Without constant reminders, one gets trapped again and again in the rat-race of life.
3.Give your Best at every moment.
All we ever have is, this moment. And if we give our best at every moment, we get the BEST results every time. What is regret, if not giving our best for a moment that just passed by? If you have realised now, that itís essential to spend time to identifying your Life Purpose. Donít give a half-hearted effort, but give it your very best, this moment and every moment.
4. Adopt Acceptance and Seek forgiveness.
Although we have unlimited desires & opportunities, we are helpless with limited knowledge & resources. We canít help but make mistakes and fail, at times. Our Most Merciful Lord has made available for us a secret portal to return back to Him. Itís by seeking forgiveness. Seek forgiveness for the wrongs committed, be it for wrongs knowingly done or ignorantly. Seek forgiveness for not giving oneís best (be it charity, time etc.), seek forgiveness for not dealing in the best of manners with our close ones (be it parents, children, relatives or colleagues at office.) Adopt a lifestyle of constant acceptance of any situation and asking for forgiveness.
One of the best speeches Iíve heard, that spells out really clearly that indeed man is more of spiritual nature than material one is this lecture by Dr. Murtaza Alidina. Itís about an hour long. Click here to download the mp3 file.
Would love to hear your comments on the above. Keep smiling!